Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Grasping.... Letting go

While I was doing my usual routine of evening sitting meditation yesterday, it was observed that the mind was functioning from two different states, ie, ignorance or wisdom. When the mind was operated from the perspective of ignorance, there tends to be negative feelings such as unworthiness, despair, restless, irritation and others.

However, when awareness is able to observe this and not holding on or perpetual these ignorance thoughts, feeling of peace and letting go arise. The mind state becomes clear and lucid. Every activity of the mind is crystal clear and transparent and easily observable.

This kind of clear mind state is not easily accessible as we are so conditioned with thinking negative thoughts with ignorance most of the time. Once there is this mind state, it is pleasurable and enjoyable. When this happen, immediately holding on due to ignorance kicks in and the mind wants this kind of mental state to continue and prolong.

As this moment, wisdom of observing with impartiality and non-judgmental is covered up by thick cloud of ignorance. And wise contemplation of seeing things as it is was gone. Therefore, the mind state again falls back to negativity.

From the observation of this, it comes to me that we are experiencing ignorance or wisdom all the time. If wisdom is not there, it is being covered up by ignorance. When wisdom is there operating, ignorance fade. It is just the way it is. However, if holding on and grasping comes in, we will suffer.

Therefore, what has been gotten here is that there is no right or wrong with the ignorance or wisdom experience. What causes the suffering is the grasping on the experience. The grasping could be on both ignorance and wisdom. In terms of ignorance grasping, it manifested as resisting and rejecting what is. On the other hand, grasping on wisdom is desiring and wishing the pleasurable experience to continue longer.

When grasping and holding on is truly understand and let go, then there will be silence and peace.

Monday, June 28, 2010

Life and Death

There was a fly lingering around in the office. Whenever there were flies, many of us regard it as irritating, not understanding that the flies were just doing their job, which is flying around, as much as what we human do i.e. walking around.

That day, I saw a colleague took up a notebook, following after the fly and wait for the right moment to hit on the fly. Proudly she showed her successful attempt in banishing the fly to the other colleague.

Sitting at my place and looking at the showing, there was a kind of unease feeling inside me. At that moment, the mind has automatically made a judgment towards this colleague and condemns her for being a killer, a murderer. How could we kill, even though that is an insect? Are we seeing this tiny life as insignificant and claim superiority as a human?

That unease feeling was lingering because I have seen ‘death’, shown by a fly in front of my own eyes.

But then suddenly, something struck and understanding just happen. Was I seeing death and fearing death at that moment? In fact it was. I was seeing a fly being killed, and the mind has fear on thinking about death. If the mind is fearing death, that means it is holding on strongly on what it calls life. And in this case, the mind is still abide in separation. What is more truth will be the mind is fearing separation, separation between life and death.

There is a meaning given to what is called death. And it is something that the mind fears so much and is looking for whatever ways, investing in whatever method to run away from it. Exercise to keep the body healthy, taking in vitamins and supplements to make the body stay fit, grooming nicely to look good, look young, all are ways the ego use to temporarily escape from the thought of death.

However, the real cause on all these is in fact beneath the meaning of life and death, which I would like to call it separation. A separation between life and death and fear on the uncertain of what we call death.

Once the mind understands this, there is no more condemnation, unease, nor contraction in the heart. There is no holding on to what life is, and what is called death. The mind accepts what had happened and relaxes into the ease of the present. No more meaning giving. Peace.

Friday, June 25, 2010

Duality

During one of the meditation retreat discussion with the teacher, the teacher mentioned that when yogis (those who practice meditation) reported to him they have a good sitting, he will be worry for the yogis. It is strange. I thought that teachers will be happy because the students show some progress. And I asked the teacher why. He said that when some one said he has a good sitting, the mind will hold on to the good experience and the next sitting, the yogis will suffer because he is expecting another good sitting.

It was a bit bewildered for me and I don’t really get what the teacher meant until last night when I was sitting comfortably in my cozy room reading a book. At that moment, the mind was feeling very pleasurable and thought that this is very comfortable. At the same time, another thought of judging the small inn I was staying the previous two nights was very un-comfortable and in a way, scaring as it is dirty and dark and rumored to be haunted.

Suddenly the mind realized, it was holding on to the current pleasurable and comfort experience. When this happened, immediately back in the subconscious, there is disliking of the opposite. We as human beings like pleasure and comfortable feeling. When there is liking, automatically disliking arises. No exception. And then I remember and understand what TL, a good friend cum teacher told me before, it is like the two side of the coins, they always come together, you can’t want one side and don’t want the other.

In other words, in this realm, this world, pleasure and un-pleasure feeling, comfortable and uncomfortable experiences are naturally exist. With the blessing of the senses of seeing, hearing, tasting, smelling, touching and feeling, we will be experiencing both. In fact, there is nothing wrong with both kinds of experiences. But once there is grasping towards the pleasurable, suffering follows. And a dislike seed has been planted towards the unpleasant.

Suffering follows in terms of both wanting the good, and resisting the bad. In so many occasions, I have overlooked this kind of mind working, not recognizing the seed of hatred has been planted. With awareness training, the mind is more quiet and calm and able to catch how ideas and opinions have been formed towards the unpleasant while experiencing the pleasant.

With the observation and noticing without any judgment and criticism, then there is no more holding on towards the pleasant and aversion towards the unpleasant. There comes in peace and tranquility. That is why the Buddha advocates on equanimity as the route to liberation.

But then, does it mean this being here always live in such kind of bliss state? Obviously no because the mind has been conditioned so much in wanting and not wanting. However, by being able to have a brief glimpse of how the mind works, it opens up a wider door of faith and trust for the practicing to continue.

It is not a destiny, it is a journey.

Non-existance and meaningless...

You and I do not exist. The statement itself could have triggered alarming shock in many. To some, it might just sound as true and accept that gracefully.

When the mind quiets down, it become crystal clear that whatever arises passes away in same rate. There is no meaning in anything. The wisdom understands it clearly, and knows it to its deepest sense.

But then, some thing arises. Since there is no meaning in the happenings, which denotes nothing is important or real in any way possible, how about trying to create some meaning in the meaningless, for the sake of experience and having some fun? With that idea, meaning of possession comes in, follow by wealth, fame, relationship, career, success, and many more items and events under the sun.

It was started initially just for the fun of it. But some how or rather, in a later stage, it was forgotten that all these are created for the sake of giving some meaning to happenings, indulgence starts to set in, and takes control. And then, human and the notion of ‘I’ come into the picture. The entire purpose of giving meaning has been lost and the most sad incident is no one ever remember happenings has no meaning at all, the meaning are just given by a mad idea of the ignorance.

Looking back to the teaching of Buddha and Jesus, both masters were showing what the truth is. The Buddha said ‘I’ does not exist. Jesus told us the world has no meaning except the meaning we gave to it.

But we all have forgotten this. We took every thing so seriously and making it so real. We are our house, our car, our relationship, our body, our mind. What we experience are us. That is the mistake we have made without realizing it. That is the error that we could have corrected by now.

When we quiets down, when we can observe the chattering mind as just chattering, the grasping as just grasping, the meaning giving as just meaning giving, naturally, there is letting go, there is insight. There is the wisdom operating and there is the route to the deathless and endless.

No more meaning giving, no more mistake, no more grasping, no more no more…

Monday, June 21, 2010

Awareness just observe....

While reading a book the other day, the mind was excited for it has found some useful message. The content of the book is concluded to be so true.

However, while awareness is operating and contemplating and reflecting is functioning, light pops up and the mind see some new insights.

Many a time, while the senses get in contact with its objects, in this case, the mind with the information in the book, naturally, the mind dissimilate what it has received, compared with the ideas already present and store in the memory. If the comparison comes out positive, then an agreeable message is discharged and we will say ‘whoa, that is so true’. In contrast, the mind will discard the information and judge it as inaccurate, not true, or heavier word: wrong.

In both case, the mind will look for reasons, facts, statements, sayings from the sages or some famous celebrities either to support if it is agreeable or justify if it is disagreeable. When this process of looking for facts and reasons is going on, the attention is mostly outwards, that is towards the information it has just received and searching from outside facts and proves.

In the training of awareness, however, is observing inward on the working of the mind. In this case, from my own experience, it can be noticed that the mind is working very fast, just like the memory in the hardware of a computer, searching through its database for reasons that it agree with the content. And, without involving and personalizing this process, it is seen that at the same time, the mind is judging that what so and so said is not true, because what this master or teacher said is true. Or, maybe so and so has not understand this yet, now I read this and I understand; it is just operating of ego.

All this happened because there are already ideas and opinions running in the mind. In normal way, the mind looks out and get involve with all the thoughts, which then perpetual the thought process. I am feeling grateful that now, this skill of awareness has been learned. And now it knows and able to observe and recognize that judging on the content of books is like this; trying to look for facts to support and justify my opinion is like that; and just observing how this happen without getting involve feels like that.

Just being aware, is, but peace and freedom.

Friday, June 18, 2010

Healing vs Letting Go

We don’t really heal anything; we simply let it go.” -- Carl Jung

Read this phrase from an email today and it sounds so true to me. Many times, I have heard about healing. And from scientific view, stepping from curing to healing is a great advance.

However, deep in the mind, I have, to certain degree found that even healing is not so accurate. I come from a Buddhism background which advocate on non-self, impermanence and dukkha. While in non-self, there isn’t an entity, a soul, or a body. And everything is just flux that changes in an unbelievable fast rate.

And in recent teachings of all those famous master and spiritual advisers, they too, some how have taught that there is no ‘body’ which human has been taken it for real for ages. There is no a permanent mind or a human being that resides in this body.

In this case, I have found it very strange that some of my friends who have been walking in the journey for many years and telling every one who come into their domain that the world is not real are still seeking after healing, be it healing to the body or the mind or anything. On one hand, it was well understood (well, could be intellectual understanding) that mind and body of the person called ‘I’ is just what ‘I’ have taken for real. On the other hand, this ‘I’ still looking for something to heal itself. Isn’t it a conflict? It is like telling myself there is no ‘I’ or ‘me’, but I need to get myself heal. Who is getting heal and what is getting heal?

There is no ‘I’ but I have to…. So it appear very strange to me and I am not able to understand them. It is as if they are talking about going home is in this direction, they are going home soon. But what they do is walking on the opposite direction.

I am not saying that we can’t seek treatment if the body is sick. What I couldn’t understand is how they are still seeking after so many healing masters to heal what has been understood as not real. It is not about healing, it is about the mind state or grasping on the idea that healing needs to be done.

If one is talking about something and the action is on the opposite, it could be that person has not understood what he/she said fully. It takes wisdom to discern whether to blindly believe what has been said, or take another way and discard what is not beneficial.

What Carl Jung said is agreeable to what has been understood, we don’t really heal anything, as there is nothing to be healed.

Language as communication tool

About two years ago, I attended a meditation retreat at Myanmar. There were yogis (practitioners) who come from countries such as USA, Korea, Vietnam, Hong Kong, German and many more.

One day, while I was walking passed a group of Vietnamese who were having discussion, the sound that the make caught my attention. I am, in no way, understand any Vietnamese language and therefore couldn’t understand what they were talking about.

A spark of light strike at that instant. I was amazed by how we, human being, able to make different kind of sounds for communication, and we called it language. I was also amazed by the wide variety of sounds and notes we can make, with different intonation, different syllabi, and people who learned it can understand what message it convey. Look at the languages such as English, Chinese, Spanish, French, Hindi, Malay etc. And in most of these languages, there are dialects speak by some ethnics group. All these languages and dialects, has their unique sounds.

We use all these sounds to convey messages. And if we are able to learn how to make the sounds the other person spoke, we can communicate without difficulties. It is really amazing on how the tongue twists and turns and arranges its position to come out with the sounds.

Many, has in fact misuse the difference in making sound as an excuse for the conflicts among human. If we look deep down on the reasons we make sounds, we can see that we only have one common intention: that is to communicate. Sounds we make (language, as we call it), is only an instrument or a tool that we use. Communication in fact can come from many different ways, such as the tones, the facial expression, body language, and many more.

For those who are more sensitive, we can, actually communicate by sensing the feelings, aura, or emotions of the other person. Is it something new? No, in fact, those who have extra sensory abilities are able to communicate through these ways. We use language only because we have been taught since young that words and sounds are the only way to communicate. If we were not restricted as a child and were told to learn to read by feeling the feelings of the others, then, we will have extra communication skills.

Looking back into how we human communicate nowadays, if only we could talk less and sense more, instead of listening to the words of what the other person say, and pay attention to the feelings, emotions, and mental state of the other person, we could be a better person in understanding the others.

Maybe it is now a new era for advance communication skills. To understand that using language barrier as a limitation and restriction to communicate is no more acceptable. We could open up the new field to listen with the softness of the heart; to understand with the loving kindness that inherent in each and every one of us.

Help to negative feelings and emotions

Whenever an emotion strike, if awareness can be aware of the emotion, no nutritious will be continuously fed to the emotion and it will die off sooner or later. However, if not being able to be aware, most probably human tends to indulge in the stories and prolong the emotion.

Awareness practice is one of the exercises one can use and learn to be used as a tool to sharpen this kind of observation. Once one becomes adept to this skill, wisdom will follow suit.

There are many times, jealousy, anger, sadness and other feelings and emotions arise, and the feeling is very uneasy. Because of the patient in practicing awareness and mindfulness, these skills come into rescue and take note of these feelings and emotions immediately. Ignorance and ego tries their best to pull the mind into the feeling and emotion and tried hard to prolong them.

With the awareness and mindfulness, wisdom also comes in to assist. The wisdom knows that this is just nature. The feelings and emotions are just part of nature, which come and go as fluxes and obey the law of impermanence. It also observed that the ignorance is doing its part to grasp on the feelings and emotions. With the observation and noticing of nature, with the understanding of how the mind works, holding on has nothing to keep it going. And the feelings and emotions just faded away.

With wisdom, with understanding, I didn’t let go of the feelings and emotions. Instead, the feelings and emotions let go of me as it has no way to stand. Thus, freedom is the name.

Blind Spot

Blind spot denotes the area where the eyes unable to see. It also shows that objects are present at that area, but some how or rather, the eyes are not able to spot or recognize anything at that area, and therefore, it is a blind spot to the eyes.


In human life, there are a lot of blind spots, mostly are hidden by the ignorance of the mind and the intention of not to see it. Some times, the blind spot is also due to cover up by always looking outside, looking on the others and intentionally careless about what is the experience right here and right now.


One day, I was having thoughts about what a good life a friend was having by not needed to work for survival. Instead, she is able to go on holidays overseas, in Europe, US and other side of the world. On top of that, she is able to devote her time to retreat and pilgrimage any time that she likes. But then, there are still complaints about something that she is not having.


While sitting on my working table, I wondered how can that be. I got to sit in the office everyday from 9 to 5 to earn a living. And I do not have the luxury of enjoying vacations overseas. Is it life really that unfair? While others are able to enjoy life without having to work, whereas some have to work hard just to earn a piece of bread.


Further contemplation leads to some insight. That is where a blind spot is about. While my friend is having a good life as many of the working ladies are looking forward to, she complaint about what she doesn’t have. Therefore, not seeing and acknowledging the blessing that she is enjoying at the moment. Thus, there is a blind spot.


Similarly, while I am having a relatively good job here, having a healthy body, healthy mind, able to practice meditation and read good books after work, able to pursue my hobby of learning and practicing Chinese musical instrument, isn’t me too is shielded by some blind spots which makes me forgot about all these blessings?


On top of that, while looking outwards and feeling envious towards what my friend is living, I have forgotten to savour the wonderment of life I am living now and here. The experience that I have having now is in fact unique to me, which nobody else will be able to enjoy to the same degree. Looking outwards constitute the blind spots.


Blind spots are inevitable in life? Not at all. By recognizing blind spots and open up the horizon of view, life becomes more free and easy. Peace is the reward, precious and light.